Is life really 'that deep'?

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Sometimes I think about things over, and over again. I replay conversations, situations and events in my head, way after they've happened. I assess and re-assess why people do what they do until it makes some sort of sense to me. 

Some people call that overthinking, I call it good analysis.

But either way, it had me wondering:

And I got some responses like this:

It’s clear that the answer to my question is both yes and no. For every ‘black and white’ situation there are multiple shades of grey. We make life complex. We repeat the same mistakes that we swore we'd never do, and we watch people act in ways that we would have never expected.

Taking the time we take to figure out what's REALLY going on inside our heads untangles the confusion, even though it might involve some difficult conversations. As Shonda Rhimes says in her brilliant book, 'Year of Yes':

 (Some of my highlights from 'Year of Yes' by Shonda Rhimes)

(Some of my highlights from 'Year of Yes' by Shonda Rhimes)


So in the spirit of open conversation, I bring you my first recommendation of the year: DEAR SUGAR RADIO.

Dear Sugar is a podcast that caught my attention during my travels from London to Northern England for work. During those 3 hour train-rides, I got bored of listening to music, sending emails and reading books. I wanted to relax and learn at the same time. 

From the author of bestselling-book-turned-hollywood-movie ‘Wild’, Cheryl Strayed and essayist Steve Almond, Dear Sugar tackles some of life's biggest questions. In each episode, someone around the world writes in to ask for advice about absolutely anything from money, relationships, politics, family and the list goes on.

Over the holidays I decided to share this gem with few friends, and it was always led to the most passionate conversations (read: heated debate), because it’s just that good.

Here some of my favourite episodes to get you going (you can also find them on iTunes):

  1. The ever controversial topic ‘Powerful (successful) Women and the Men who Love Them'
  2. 'The Two Stories We Tell’, the difference between how we want the world to see us and how we see ourselves
  3. What happens when one woman's decision to care for a sick friend becomes a selfish, all-consuming obsession' 'The Hidden Worlds of Guilt and Shame'
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When you listen to Dear Sugar Radio, try listening to it in two ways: 

a) As a form of entertainment and information and more importantly;
b) As something that might shed some light on your own life - even if you can't completely relate or don't completely agree.

It's helped me understand myself, and the world a little bit better. After all, that's why I'm here. It really is the ultimate 'fly on the wall' experience.

Pick an episode, listen and let me know what you think!