How to Have a More Confident and Consistent Prayer Life

How to Have a More Confident and Consistent Prayer Life

How to Pray article about how to improve your prayer life

How do you go from ‘survival mode’ to something more serene? 

How do you maintain your inner peace in the face of life’s challenges?

How do you get the confidence to embrace the unknown?

Without even realising, this was the journey I had been on over the last 40 days. Without a shadow of a doubt, getting to this quiet, confident place of ‘it is well’ only happened for me through prayer. It’s one of the core practices that connect us to God and the world around us.

For all its simplicity, prayer is still kind of mystical. For years, many of us have struggled with feeling like we’re not doing it ‘right’ or doing it ‘enough’. Especially if you’ve been praying for a long-time and nothing happens, it’s easy to feel as if you’ve missed the mark. During this 40 day period, two MAJOR factors have helped me grow in faith and in my prayer life. 

  1. Clarity and vision (more confidence)

  2. ‘Circling’ our prayers (greater consistency)

Here’s how they can help you too. 

(Plus, I share something I’ve created to build consistency in my prayer life — now we can ALL use it!)

1. Clarity and vision helps your prayer life

It’s common to pray about solving a problem or getting something we really want. And there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s important. But here’s the issue:

We tend to decide exactly how we want our prayer to be answered. We subconsciously see ourselves as the strategist and God as executor who follows our instructions. 

But of course, God can’t be micro-managed. So when the strategy we have created gets delayed or doesn’t happen at all, disappointment and frustration run wild. This is when we need to remember that prayer isn’t about getting what we want, it’s about aligning our wants to God’s larger will. We bring the disparate elements of our lives to God, and as we co-labour with God in prayer, something beautiful emerges. 

So how do you get into alignment?

It’s a cycle that starts with praying for a vision and ends with praying clarity. You start by praying for alignment. You start by asking for God’s will to be done in a specific area of your life. As you pursue God in prayer (also in tongues if you can), clarity comes. You start to get a glimpse of what’s possible. A glimpse of what God is doing in that area of your life, and that fuels the fire to continue.

“Intercessors [people who pray] are watchmen and watchwomen. They see sooner and see further in the spiritual realm. Why? Because prayer gives us a unique vantage point” — Day 38, ‘Draw the Circle Prayer’ Devotional by Mark Batterson

At speaking events, I sometimes talk about times when I have recorded my thoughts or revelations (clarity) in a special journal. This is because something deep down knows that this glimpse, this moment of clarity is going to be fully manifested in the future. It’s my ‘vision’. And that’s what keeps me grounded. Having a clear vision gives you staying power. It gives you confidence, even if the current reality looks questionable.

“All these people were still living by faith when they died. They did not receive the things promised; they only saw them and welcomed them from a distance, admitting that they were foreigners and strangers on earth.

People who say such things show that they are looking for a country of their own. If they had been thinking of the country they had left, they would have had opportunity to return. Instead, they were longing for a better country—a heavenly one. Therefore God is not ashamed to be called their God, for he has prepared a city for them.” — Hebrews 11:13-16

2. ‘Circling’ your prayers improves consistency

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When prayer is a lifestyle, there’s less space for doubt and fear to dominate.

This doesn’t mean we never experience these feelings, it just means that the psychological and spiritual defences we have against them are finally within reach. Not only are they within reach, but we know how to use them well because we have built a regular routine. The small things soon accumulate into major breakthroughs. This is what author Mark Batterson calls ‘circling’. 

But this isn’t about mindless rituals or emptily ‘speaking into existence’ the things on your wish list. It’s deeper than that. Everything we pray should be directly or indirectly related to promises that God has given us through his word or through personal revelation (see point one: vision). Tying our prayers to the Bible gives us something to stand on. We build our houses on the rock (Matthew 7:24-27).

When I pray, I read relevant scriptures out loud or personalise the verses that I believe apply to me in that season to remind me of God’s nature and how the world works. 

So, what next?

If I asked you right now, what prayers are you circling, what have you learned in the journey of waiting and what scriptures you were standing on, would you have an answer?

Don’t worry, this isn’t a test. No judgment here. 

I’m asking to think about the current state of your prayer life, your confidence and your consistency. Because it’s likely that the more consistent you are, the easier it is to answer these questions with confidence.

This is exactly why I created the new Personal Prayer Diary.

I had gone through so many journals that it wasn’t always easy to follow the development of specific prayer points. I felt like I was always starting from scratch in some areas of my prayer life, instead of picking up where I left off and building on the foundations that God and I had already established. It has become my go-to resource for the prayers I’ve been praying for weeks, months and years — for the strategic prayers that will dictate the course of my life. 

If you’ve been part of the Inner Circle for a while, you may know that we’re all about simple, effective ways of improving our lives for the better. And with this Prayer Diary, you can track your prayers regularly, speak the scriptures out loud and most importantly, write down the revelations and testimonies you experience along the way. 

When you have a record of what God is saying and doing in a specific area, you can’t help but be encouraged to press on in prayer. Remember, staying power. This Personal Prayer Diary has been incredibly helpful for me, and pray it will be the same for you too.

Interactive Personal Prayer Diary (Digital Product)

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” — Galatians 6:9 (NIV)

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If you want to go deeper this is for you. If like me, you want do more than pray once and forget about where that prayer even went, you’re in the right place.

It’s a simple way to watch the journey of your life unfold through prayer. It's also the perfect tool to pray with daily. There are personal pages for you to note down key areas of prayer, grounding scriptures and revelations you might receive along the way.

For more inspiration to kick-start your prayer life, read the blog here.

Product features:

  • Welcome page and ‘how to use’ guide (7 pages)

  • Interactive fields to track your prayer journey including: topic area, core prayer points, grounding verses and testimonies

  • Checkbox fields to tick each time you’ve prayed about a topic

  • Available worldwide

  • Product will be emailed to your inbox immediately after purchase

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