The Difference Between Putting Yourself First & Being Selfish [VIDEO]


Over the last few weeks, we’ve been talking about real solutions to life’s burnout. One of the biggest things is putting yourself first — but it’s not easy, because society tells us we’re selfish. We’re not, watch why.

We are no longer talking about burnout over email 😔 but the conversation is just beginning! 😄 Join my 5-step course, CULTIVATE: How to Eliminate Stress and Restore Balance to your busy life — this course is packed with the tools to become the very best version of yourself everyday from now on.

At the end of the video, I show you exactly what the course looks like ✨

From protecting your mind and curing burnout, we’ve covered a lot of ground in our recent discussions about improving the quality of your life — but there is one missing piece to this puzzle. What do you when you just can’t shake the guilt that comes with putting yourself first? In this week’s video blog I explain how putting yourself first isn’t lazy or immature, it is actually one of the keys to a truly successful life. Setting priorities and boundaries makes you more effective in life — and therefore, more able to support everyone around you. I also share some practical ways you can start putting yourself first today.

Now, here’s everything you need to know about CULTIVATE (FAQs included):

Through DMs, emails, and in person conversations, many of you have asked me the same question: how can I look after myself better, without feeling guilty about it?

The new CULTIVATE course is my response. I have spent weeks gathering what I have learned from years of writing, speaking and coaching people for the first instalment CULTIVATE. And now I’m SO excited to finally share it with you.

Course previews:

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More FAQs including what you’ll get out of it below.


So how does CULTIVATE actually work?

CULTIVATE gives you a personalised strategy for restoring balance to your busy schedule, so that you can eliminate stress and focus on the things that are most important to you.

CULTIVATE is an online course that shares my practical strategies for a more balanced life — through a mix of video teachings, diagrams, exercises and your interactive participant guidebook.

What will I get out of it?

You will leave with a plan for ‘spring cleaning’ your life — so that you can confidently make decisions that are aligned to your life’s purpose, instead of being weighed down by unnecessary pressure and stress. You can complete the course at your own pace, and use it over and over again for the different situations that life brings.

Who is it for?

This is for people ambitious people — in work, in family life or school — who sometimes feel like their ambition causes feelings of stress and overcommitment. CULTIVATE is all about recalibrating your life, so you can come back bigger, better and way less frazzled.

How much does it cost to register? Can I get CULTIVATE if I live outside of the UK?

CULTIVATE is open to everyone anywhere in the world! 🌎 Enrolling in CULTIVATE involves an investment of £20 per person — with this you get full access to the course, all the bonus material, group discussion and live streams.

If you’re based in Nigeria, you can join cultivate for N10,000 via bank transfer GTB Account Number: 0261961277. Once you have made the transfer please email us at

You will also get a bunch of bonus content (preview pictures below):

  • Access to our private discussion forum, so you can share your journey with other students;

  • Access to private Q&A livestreams with me;

  • The Weekly Planner with key meetings, 'to dos' and your daily commitment to personal self-care;

  • Our Affirmation Sheets, desktop and mobile wallpapers and;

  • The Annual Game Plan — a month-by-month journey of reflection and planning for the future.

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I’m so ready for this — when can I register for the course?

Amazing! You can register here. We can’t wait to meet you!


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